It happens to everyone. That moment when we unequivocally know in our heart of hearts, that what we had is no longer the same, or is possibly gone entirely.
I’m not talking about your first crush, or the loss of your first pet, although those are also milestones along the path of exploring, defining and recognizing all that love entails. I’m talking about the end of your relationship with a significant person. One you gave a title to, even if you never uttered it.
It can end in a thousand different ways, and everyone’s journey is always so different.
But a couple of things remain true, no matter what, it’s hard. It’s deep. And it’s got a lot of societal baggage attached to it.
The bad news is that no one can deal with those difficulties or feelings, but you. The good news is that societal baggage doesn’t have to be something you put up with too much.
The other good news is that no matter which leg of the journey you’re on, there’s a song for you. One that will resonate with your empathy so hard that it will become a part of the soundtrack of your life. Someone out there, they understand the spot you’re in right now and maybe they can help you process what you’re feeling or the difficulty you have.
This trilogy is a starter pack to point you in a direction to find that song and to start to heal.
Part 1 – Just plain done.
Sometimes, love just falls away or people change so much that they have different needs in life than they did last year or a decade ago.
This loss is no less a loss than any of the others. And in some ways much harder than the angry obvious breakups.
Because how do you explain it to anyone? Or do you even bother? How do you tell that significant person that it’s not them, it’s you, and sincerely mean it? How do you keep from hurting someone you still care about but don’t love the way you used to? Is that possible?
Is it possible to be disappointed or betrayed and just let it go?
No matter the why’s or how’s, this list is for you.
All of those things are possible, and more.
A couple of dozen other people who’ve all gotten to this point and needed to let their story out into the world.
You’re not alone.
Click here to see the breakup mix playlist on Spotify. Be sure to check out the Letting Go mix from last year too. Come listen to more free streaming music on our Spotify station or you can use the embedded player here on our site. Have an idea for one? Get in touch
- Beyoncé – Listen
- Avril Lavigne & Chad Kroeger – Let Me Go
- Aretha Franklin – It Hurts Like Hell
- The Black Crowes – Could I’ve Been So Blind
- Tom Cochrane – Emotional Truth
- En Vogue – Riddle
- Evanescence – Call Me When You’re Sober
- Dance Hall Crashers – Lost Again
- Shakira – Did It Again
- New Found Glory – Vicious Love (feat. Hayley Williams)
- Tina Turner – Absolutely Nothing’s Changed
- Me First and the Gimme Gimmes – Beautiful
- Kehlani – Be Alright
- Aretha Franklin – Willing to Forgive
- Keri Hilson – Breaking Point
- Tweet – Small Change
- P!nk – Mean
- TLC – Aye Muthafucka
- Lisa Stansfield – Poison
- The Clash – Train in Vain
- Ed Sheeran – Give Me Love
- Bumpin Uglies – Sorry I’m Not Sorry
- The Interrupters – Title Holder
About the DJ: Slugger (a PM Family Modmin) may never have thought to be a parent, before it happened… but she’s going to kick the shit out of it.
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